Welcome back to my blog! Here in Maryland, we’re nearing 6 weeks of mandated quarantine and home isolation. 6 weeks? 42 days?? 1,008 hours??? It’s driving the girls crazy—myself included! Don’t get me wrong, I understand the importance of isolating and I’m not questioning it, but id be lying if I said it wasn’t taking a toll on my mental. I’ve spent almost 1,008 hours doing the same activities: meditate, homework, eat, drink, and paint. It was fun at first, self-indulging. But lately I’ve gotten tired of the same routines over and over again— swapping wines doesn’t count as change either— and I know I’m not the only one. I’ve seen the memes and jokes on social media about reaching out to our exes during quarantine, and I’m here to remind you that it is NOT a good idea! It’s not worth the headache! If you broke up with he/she/them because it wasn’t good then, 9 times out of 10, it won’t be good now! Don’t let your mind get the best of you. If they were lying or cheating or manipulative then, they most likely haven’t changed, sadly. Sometimes, and because of singlism and patriarchy especially, women value their worthiness based on their attachment to a spouse. It’s okay to be alone and there’s nothing wrong with being single. Stop shaming yourself or feeling like you need someone else to feel whole. Remember ladies, a relationship is supposed to involve to whole parties coming together to share their individual happiness, you shouldn’t be depending on someone to make you happy. And it’s important to note whether or not you’re single by choice, because this is the lifestyle you want, or if you’re single but actively looking for a partner. Knowing your situation makes all the difference, but you need to be happy within yourself no matter what. I know you might feel lonely, but you’re not. The act of being alone is not synonymous with loneliness (don’t confuse the two!) and it’s important to find peace in solitude! Embracing solitude could help a lot with creativity, productivity, and overall mental wellness. With that being said… is texting your ex really going to help your mental wellness? Are you chasing a feeling that’s no longer there? Reminiscing? No, chances are, you’re just bored! If you made the decision to leave before, what’s changed now? Besides the copious amount of free time and little to no things to do? You’re just bored sis. You made the right decision before and now it’s time to stand on it… no matter how tempting it might be. You’re not lonely. Nurture your platonic friendships if you’re craving social interaction. Craving more? Buy a toy! (we’re all adults here, masturbation is healthy and could very well be what you’re missing from pasts relationships) Self-isolation is not the time to chase your ex. Take this time to relax, or catch up on things, or learn new hobbies—anything, anything but texting that person you know you shouldn’t be texting. Protect your self! Put the phone down and walk away sis, haha. Wash your hands, stay home, and be safe. Thanks for reading! *inserts heart emoji*
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AuthorHi, I'm Shyanne Dyson. I'm a senior at Hampton University studying Cybersecurity. Between being a student, daughter, sister, friend, ally, and volunteer, you can add blogger to the list. Archives
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